We tried something new at bedtime & it made us actually sleep better together.
We stopped sharing blankets.
I kept seeing people talk about the Scandinavian sleep method and brushed it off at first. Separate blankets felt unnecessary. But after one too many nights of waking up cold, tangled, and irritated, we decided to give it a shot.
Within the first night of trying it, we were both sleeping better.
And we completely stopped fighting over blankets.
What surprised me most wasn’t how quickly it worked.
It was how simple the change actually was.
What the Scandinavian sleep method actually is
Despite the name, the Scandinavian sleep method isn’t complicated.
It simply means each person has their own blanket instead of sharing one.
Same bed. Same mattress. Separate covers.
That’s it.
No special bedding. No rules about how thick or thin the blankets need to be. Each person gets what feels comfortable to them.
One person can move without waking the other. One can sleep warm, the other cool. No tug-of-war happening at 2 a.m.
Why this improves sleep more than people expect
Sleep usually doesn’t fall apart because of one big issue.
It falls apart because of repeated, low-level disturbances.
Getting pulled awake when someone rolls over.
Waking up cold and tense.
Adjusting covers over and over.
Feeling irritated before you’re fully awake.
Over time, the body starts anticipating those interruptions. Removing just one of those disruptions can change the entire tone of the night.
For couples, separate blankets remove a surprisingly common source of tension. And when tension drops, sleep quality improves.
Making it part of a real bedtime routine
We didn’t just switch blankets and call it done. Instead of crashing into sleep after a long day, we slowed things down. Lights dimmed earlier. Phones off sooner and created a small window of time for us to both connect before bed.
Before getting under our separate blankets, we took it up a notch with giving each other foot rubs with magnesium and arnica infused body butter before bed. It has been a relaxing time for us to connect and talk together without interruptions, while creating a special experience for us both.
The feet are packed with nerve endings and handle a lot of physical stress throughout the day. Gentle massage helps release tension and encourages circulation, which can make it easier for the body to actually relax and it also happens to be one of the best areas to apply topical magnesium for fast absorption.
This is where we use our Calm Vibes Triple Magnesium & Arnica Triple Whipped Body Butter. We keep it on our nightstand so it’s within reach when it’s time for bed.
How to try this yourself
If you want to experiment with this at home, keep it simple.
Use separate blankets. I just fold each bed sheet in half so each person gets their own without it dragging on the floor or sneaking off into the other side, and the same thing with the comforter or blanket.
Use our Calm Vibes magnesium and arnica triple whipped body butter and give yourself or your partner a gentle foot massage before getting into bed.
For a long time, I thought better sleep meant finding the right thing to take or the perfect rule to follow.
Sometimes improving sleep isn’t about doing more.
It’s about removing what gets in the way.
And sometimes, it starts with not sharing a blanket.
With Valentine’s Day coming up, and everyone thinking about the perfect gift, giving each other quality time and the gift of better sleep is one of the most meaningful things you can offer.
Separate blankets. A few minutes of foot massage. Then real sleep.
If you want to recreate the exact routine we use at home, Calm Vibes Triple Magnesium & Arnica Triple Whipped Body Butter is what we keep on our nightstand and reach for every night before bed for relaxing quality time & better sleep.
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Better nights together.
No blanket fighting required.